In the midst of today’s overwhelming divorce rate, two local couples’ lasting marriages give reason not to give up on love.
Dorothy Bernholz, who works at UNC Student Legal Services, met her husband, Steve, in 1961 when they were both undergraduates at UNC. He was dating one of her Kappa Kappa Gamma sorority sisters at the time but soon became more interested in dating Dorothy, he said.
“I called her up quite a few times, and she wouldn’t respond,” Steve said. “Finally, she agreed to go have coffee with me at Lenoir Hall.”
The two were married less than a year later. Because they had different religious backgrounds and were still in school, they decided to keep the marriage a secret from their families.
“We were scared to death of our parents,” Dorothy said. “We thought they would disapprove.”
The couple kept quiet for more than a year until Dorothy became pregnant with their first child. When they finally did reveal their secret, their parents were accepting.
“I think my parents were surprised, but they liked Dottie very much, so they got over the surprise,” Steve said.
During that time, getting engaged in college was important to most women, Dorothy said. “There were 10 men for every woman at UNC,” she said, laughing. “If you couldn’t snag one, you were dead. But of course, that’s not why we got married.”
After graduating college, the couple had another child and went on to graduate from law school.