I used to live with a cat.
His name is Simba, but I called him Cat for simplicity’s sake. That was the role he played in my life, so it seemed silly to call him anything else.
Our relationship was mostly a healthy one. I’d pet him, he’d paw me in the face — it wasn’t my job to feed him or clean his poop-box, so to me he was just a furry, naked roommate who rubbed his butt on the couch and wasn’t allowed to leave the house.
But life gets crazy and tense, and cats get annoying.
Sometimes it’d start with biting or clawing me as I waved colorful things in his face — he was just playing, and I knew that — but before I knew what was happening, I’d smacked him upside the head.
And sometimes I didn’t even need that much provocation. Sleep deprivation and high levels of stress mean low pain tolerance and jumpy as hell. There were mornings when all it would take for me to fly off the handle was the slightest interruption.
He’d jump and tap me on the back like a toddler starting a game of tag and I’d hurl the closest notebook at him. He’d approach me, all of a sudden asking for attention, and instantly I’d retaliate — pushing him away or gesturing violently until he’d leave me alone.
It’s easy to dismiss — he was never visibly injured or obviously afraid of me, but I knew I was doing something both wrong and irrational. And after hitting him, I’d immediately regret it.
Of course honest remorse doesn’t excuse abusing another living, feeling animal. And earnestly repenting didn’t stop me from doing it again.