That's what I learned most about a lot of people on this campus in regards to my infamous column on UNC's gender ratio last week. So for those of you who were quick to dismiss my perspective, I'd just like to clear my good name before the idea that I'm a loser who demeans all women is perpetuated. To clarify my ideas, I'll respond to some of the e-mails I received.
"Get over it -- society controls and forms our outlook on the world through the media which tries to convince us that our worth is based on our looks."
Heck yeah, but what keeps me from proposing change in the system? If we are compelled to follow the social norms that are set for us then we will never progress. Is there anything wrong with asking the population on this campus to consider aspects other than the attire one might be wearing? All I was doing was emphasizing the misconceptions women might have about "the ratio," so I'll end like this respondent chose to begin -- get over it.
"Is your own confidence and self-importance based on having a girlfriend?"
The simple answer to this question is no. What conceivable reason would anyone have to latch onto someone only to end up in the same place you were when you started -- alone? I know this sounds pessimistic -- of course there are a lot of benefits to having a significant other -- but to say that my self-worth is defined by a girl is unwarranted.